Most first impressions are not really about you; they are designed into how our brains and social conditioning have worked for ages. And once you understand the psychology behind it, it becomes harder to take those first judgments personally, but it also makes it difficult to ignore what they can cost us. Because the potential …
Category Archives: self-coaching
Sometimes We’re Choosing, Sometimes We’re Adapting
Some might say it happens either/or. Either you make your own choices, and you are seen as a confident person, someone with grit, someone who is ready to stand their ground. Or you constantly adapt to the choices of others – and risk being seen as someone without real conviction or direction. But what if …
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Anthropic’s Study on How AI Impacts Our Jobs Holds Valuable Insights for Us Humans
Just a few days ago Anthropic dropped a study that looked at millions of real AI interactions to understand which jobs are most exposed to AI and which are less affected. Instead of speculating about what AI could do in theory, the researchers looked at how people actually use AI tools in professional contexts today. …
Why I Wrote a Self-Coaching Book (Even Though I Never Wanted to Be an Author)
I never aspired to become an author, but I had my reasons to write a book about coaching. For almost 10 years, I have worked as a coach with people from diverse backgrounds and across different continents, in various industries, and at different career stages. Sometimes, I couldn’t help but notice that people have all …
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Is egoism at the root of even our best intentions?
Why do we do good things?
We often talk about purpose and contribution, yet a deeper question remains: do we help others because it is selfless, or because it makes us feel good? Reflecting on my own path through psychology, business, and coaching, I explore egoism as a natural part of human motivation – and why it’s not the problem if fulfillment is a byproduct of real contribution.
Why Feedback Culture is Overrated
Feedback tools won’t fix culture. Discover why psychological safety – not more surveys – drives honest conversations and real performance improvement.
The power of agency: from childhood lessons to career choices
A childhood story about choice turned into a powerful career lesson. Explore how to identify real agency at work, set boundaries, and shape your own professional path.
Why You Can Be Your Own Best Coach
We often think that real change requires a new training program, a better boss, a better time, or more willpower. The truth is both simpler and more empowering: we are designed to adapt, to change, to develop. We don’t realise that the change itself is primarily in our own hands. And I want to show …
My new book is live 🔥
My new book, “Become Your Own Coach in 20 Days,” is out today. For almost 𝘁𝘄𝗼 𝘆𝗲𝗮𝗿𝘀, I’ve been quietly working on my very first book. It was not easy. I faced self-doubt and questioned myself more times than I can count. I took multiple months-long breaks because I was stuck. I edited and rewrote …
Want to feel more confident? Here’s what you should Start, Stop, and Continue Doing.
I have coached so many people who, at some point during our work together, said: “Your know what, I understand now – I just need to feel more confident.” And I cannot agree more. We all have so much potential and power within us; all we need is a little boost of confidence sometimes. I always …
Bring Up Creativity & Ownership In Your Team With The COACH Framework
Embrace the power of coaching to enhance creativity and ownership in your team. Instead of solely providing answers, encourage problem-solving by asking insightful questions and fostering reflection. The COACH Framework offers vital principles to strengthen leadership and collaboration. Start applying these concepts today to create a more impactful workplace.
Lead as a COACH
Want to elevate your impact as a leader? Learn to coach. I am serious! We know from tons of research and reports from top-tier analytics companies that 𝗯𝗮𝗱 𝗹𝗲𝗮𝗱𝗲𝗿𝘀𝗵𝗶𝗽 𝗶𝘀 𝗼𝗻𝗲 𝗼𝗳 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝘁𝗼𝗽 𝗿𝗲𝗮𝘀𝗼𝗻𝘀 𝗽𝗲𝗼𝗽𝗹𝗲 𝗹𝗲𝗮𝘃𝗲 𝗰𝗼𝗺𝗽𝗮𝗻𝗶𝗲𝘀, not a lack of perks, not salaries, but leadership.And yet… so many leaders are still focused on …
My Top Pet Peeves in Leadership
I’ve spent years working with teams and leaders to build authentic and high-performing cultures. Over time, I’ve come to realize that certain leadership behaviors drive me crazy. 🫠1️⃣ 𝐏𝐨𝐨𝐫 𝐂𝐨𝐦𝐦𝐮𝐧𝐢𝐜𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧 & 𝐓𝐫𝐚𝐧𝐬𝐩𝐚𝐫𝐞𝐧𝐜𝐲 🫠If your team doesn’t know where they’re headed or why decisions are being made, it’s hard for them to fully engage. Transparency and clear …
[Video Post] The Privilege and Gratitude I Have as a Coach
https://www.loom.com/share/af219d763a5d4466ae0cd1e73d085b3d?sid=8ce7c7d1-de0f-4d24-9185-69e19d24e096 0:00 I finished a half-year mentoring program with one of my clients today, and I have this wonderful feeling of privilege that I wanted to share with you. 0:13 In our line of work, the coaches mentor mentors, uh, therapists, counselors. We are so privileged to be trusted by other human beings with their …
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Plan for Failure as Well. It’s Inevitable on the Way to Success
As many teams dive into annual planning, I keep thinking that we often overlook one crucial factor: 𝘄𝗵𝗮𝘁’𝘀 𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗽𝗹𝗮𝗻 𝗳𝗼𝗿 𝗳𝗮𝗶𝗹𝘂𝗿𝗲?Yes, you heard that right. We naturally draft OKRs and our annual plans, aiming for the best possible outcomes and achievements, considering we will do everything as planned and the world around us will …
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Self-Coaching Guide for Your 2024 Retrospective
As we are approaching the New Year of 2025, I cannot stop but thinking what have I done in 2024? The time seems to fly so fast… Some of the plans have been not fulfilled, some plans have been over-accomplished, and some wishes have already transformed into completely different asks from the Universe. At the …
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What Would Burnout Say? Recognizing—and Responding to—Burnout’s Voice
We all have an inner dialogue guiding us through life, giving voice to our ideas, concerns, and reflections. But when Burnout sneaks in, this inner dialogue can turn dark and draining, wasting our motivation and energy. Often, it’s hard to recognize Burnout’s voice until we’re already feeling worn out, depleted, and exhausted to move on …
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[Video Post] Balance Is a Myth in Today’s Life
https://www.loom.com/share/c8e02bfe8b6543bd90e2d9d4090e857d 0:00 Hi everyone. I realized that I’m not a fan of the word balance, and we try to use it often. Even I caught myself that once in a while, when I have to congratulate someone with a birthday, I might say something like, “I wish you kind of having more balance in your …
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What Strengths Have to Do with Confidence and Other Life Questions
You may have noticed that, as a coach, I work a lot with Strengths and Confidence. My personal journey brought me to the point where I see how powerful it is to be aware of your natural talents and build up your confidence not on the wish to become someone else (like that loud and …
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We cannot have our wounds healed without properly taking care of them
It’s Friday evening, and I am cooking dinner. I wish I had at least two more arms – I recently had to go on a gluten-free diet, so making dinner became even more complicated. Two sets of pasta dishes from regular and gluten-free noodles will not cook themselves. I am also in a rush because …
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[Video Post]: Our Life Can Take Turns and Pivots, But We Could Still Be Grateful for The Journey
[Video Post]: The Recent Discovery of My Autoimmune Disease Finally Takes My Guilt Away
https://www.loom.com/share/9a133b50908a4b47a864db86215ba1b2?sid=c669afc2-54dc-4805-bce4-2f382a9d433d Video Created with Loom 0:00 Hi everyone, this week I got some news from the doctor regarding one crazy disease that I kind of for sure will work on and battle it and get the right medication and everything will be fine. 0:18 But this uhm this is an autoimmune disease which means that …
The Psychology Behind Propaganda: Why We Fall for It and How to Resist
AI-Generated Image There is always an audience for propaganda! With all that is happening in the world, I cannot stop thinking about why extremism, autocratic, and anti-human-rights propaganda that is spreading is so successful across the continents. At some point, it comes to why so many of us cannot get our heads in the right …
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The Power of Confidence: Understanding Its Multifaceted Nature
Confidence is a multifaceted trait, encompassing presence, self-assurance, and, at times, arrogance. It is vital for personal growth and effective leadership, as emphasized by various experts. Balancing confidence with humility and self-awareness is crucial. Understanding its nuances and embracing its different dimensions can empower individuals to achieve their goals and positively influence others.
[Video Post] Ai in the People Function
https://www.loom.com/share/cc84d1a6139d4fb3a6c7e881001025a8 Hey everyone, in this Loom, I discuss the role of AI in HR and talent management. I explore how AI can streamline recruitment, personalize onboarding, facilitate performance management, analyze employee engagement, automate career development, and conduct exit interviews. While AI can handle certain tasks, it’s crucial for us as humans to focus on building …
[Video Post] Have you had a time when you wished you could just change someone else?
https://www.loom.com/share/7a38b531c8a74e3b8fc9396ed157a259?sid=f1fc70e7-b7f0-4344-a2a1-8a60015f2abe 0:00 Well, it’s not the most popular request in my coaching and mentoring practice, but sometimes it happens. People come to me with requests like: “So I work with that person, and you know, it’s challenging; we have a conflict. How do I change their mindset? Or how do I influence them better?” And …